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This article is disgusting. I’m all for openness about sex, but
this article is not okay with me.

Because of this article I will not be following this blog anymore. To
have this article on your blog was a very poor choice.

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Shandra I’m sorry you feel that way. It was never our attention to offend, but we feel very strongly about providing a platform for all our readers, no matter what they are into.

As we very clearly state in the disclaimer, we neither condone or support this practice. The intention of running this is to show our readers (those who are interested) how other people think and act. We leave YOU to form your own opinions, just as everyone should.

I think it’s equally as much of a disservice to those girls involved NOT to mention or highlight that this DOES happen in the world. Now that the issue is out there and you know what is happening, perhaps now you will take action depending on how you feel.

Again, apologies that you were offended by what the author has to say, but I hope you see why we choose to run such articles.

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I found this blog entry through a friend’s social share.. while I agree with some of the points of the author, I must make it clear that not ALL Filipinas are like this. It’s sad that the author decided to generalize us like that.

Kudos to the owner of this blog for deciding to put this post up. It’s informative and an eye-opener.

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I think it’s funny that, considering how proud this person is of what he does, he would choose to remain anonymous. Ridiculous, if you ask me. At least be a man and show your disgusting face, smart ass.

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Most of the author’s point probably hold true though what stood out is the generalization that ALL Filipinas are the like the ones he met or read about. Even how he expressed his opinion about us and our sexual beings. He didn’t meet everyone and hasn’t been to all 7,107 islands. Maybe an editorial review would’ve caught that. Oh well, freedom of expression but, not everyone can write really. Most people go to school for that.

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Interesting read. This article caught my eye via my facebook feed and hey, I don’t mind a little controversy!

I agree with Bev. Having lived in the Philippines for over 2 years now, and a Cebuana/Pinay myself, I find this article over-generalizes big time.

We call the woman who are into foreigners “social climbers”… not everyone is like that. Having a Filipino girlfriend (not even talking whore), is kind of a bit like buying a girlfriend in a way, because of how they squeeze you for money and I always joke that you’re just buying a doll and they get an ATM. Marriage = cha-ching. While that might be mean and judgmental, its my honest (overgeneralized) view and I don’t necessarily like it or the social climbing ‘culture’. I’ve had such mixed reaction growing up I actually hated being Filipino and my culture.. So much struggle with my identity too. My mom for example married an American.. Hence why I grew up entirely in the states. And I feel she does use him as a comfort for her lack of financial independence, + always providing money to the relatives and spending $10,000+ on the ancestral house they’ll probably never live in. The whole cultural idea that the elder must provide for the entire family is also bullshit to me. But hey, it’s what you gotta do when people can’t afford to live on their own. The family unit becomes very important. And becomes your debt… ?

Definitely not into sex tourism either but appreciate the information. I’m always fascinated by things like sex massage shops or escorts.. It’s just something that gives me too much mixed reaction.

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I think it was a good decision to publish this article. Whatever you think of the author’s morality, it is a fascinating insight into his perspective. I suggest TSL should now take the debate forward by commissioning an article from someone who thinks it’s wrong for travellers to pay for sex.

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I think pretty much everyone can agree that the dude who wrote the post comes off sounding like a DB.

But, the fact remains, stuff like this happens in the world with regularity. While it might be uncomfortable or upsetting to read, it’s an important issue that’s out there. Not everything about travel, nor sex is all rainbows and unicorns, so good on the boys for having the guts to discuss the dark underbelly of it all.

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Brave my friend, brave. I don’t know any site who would have the cojones to post this. I am going to get flak for my comments now.. Will P. – why do you make me say these things?

Prostitution is a fact. Many feminists abhor it, want it abolished like a crushed cigarette under a shoe. But, it existed thousands of years before you and I walked the earth and it will after. It can’t be ignored, so how to deal with it?

The main reason why I personally don’t support it’s current form is not necessarily because sex is a transaction. Men will buy sex. They always will. It’s the stigma that it’s not treated as a normal job. The other is de- criminalization. And even when it is de-criminalized it is still fraught with problems. Netherlands is one of the #1 countries dealing with human trafficking. The government in 2009 had to shut down several brothels due to increased criminal activity.

I cannot support an industry that has zero consistent regulations (every country either has some regulations or none) where people ( women, homosexual workers) are open to rape, assault, drugging or coercion.

Those are downright shitty working conditions. Every industry has it’s issues. I think of nurses. Nurses are trained, have standards and regulations to follow, but a high percentage of them are alcoholics. Imagine one of them giving you an IV drip.

Prostitution is not treated like an industry or regulated properly — it’s taboo, dirty, bad and always ends up one way – imbalanced power dynamics.

Sex in itself is never a bad thing, but this fella misses the point. It all feels consensual, and it tastes like it, but you really have paid for sex. Deny it to yourself all you want. And if you didn’t, she wouldn’t be there otherwise.

It’s a transaction, you are paying for a product – a result. You are not adding excitement to their lives, mate. Trust. They are doing something that will pay better than 150 pesos a day (I know, I was in the Philippines all of December).

He acknowledges that foreign men are the prize – a walking dollar sign, yet deludes himself into thinking sex is freedom there and everyone are animals and we should give into those instincts.

The thing with freedom is choice. If they could get paid better doing something else and still have sex with him, they might. But, they can’t. So, he holds all the cards. He commands her body, and she gives it not because the job is great and she really enjoys her work or even him – because she has to.

She pretends to. She fakes it. And sometimes men who are alienated, couldn’t get laid back home to save their life, awkward, or plain dumb – tell themselves whatever they want to believe to excuse away the power dynamic. Bottom line: it’s not equal.

And until prostitution is brought out into the light and made legit, better regulated, less taboo, even better paid – we’ll have to endure 70 year old men, wholeheartedly believing that this smoking hot 20 year old really really wants him.

Not bloody likely.

See, only REAL rockstars can get 20 year olds. And they generally don’t have to pay them. Just sayin’.

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Brave man Will P. for posting an article like this. Although I don’t agree with what the guest posters’ conclusion. A lot of Filipinas are not like this maybe just the kind of people he had attracted. Poverty drove girls to this kind of job and base in my observation, a lot of them don’t like it. And some of them are even forced to do this. This is a sad reality not only in the Philippines but in most countries in the whole world.

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I read the comments before I read the article, so I went in expecting it to be far worse than it is. Does the guy sound a little douchey? I guess, but I just don’t see what all of the wailing and gnashing of teeth is about.

Is he a bit too cavalier about the whole thing? Sure. Is he the first guy to pay for sex? Hell no.

“Oh dear, how dare he have sex with somebody for money! What a scumbag!”

I’m not an advocate of sex tourism by any means, but I don’t see why people are calling for the guy’s head. The article is well written and not particularly graphic. Perfectly ok to publish IMO. Hell, I’d have published it on my site had he approached me.

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“To those who scoff at prostitutes and refuse to go near them, please stop. It’s not just the prostitutes – it’s practically all Filipina girls. These girls are poor. Not “can’t buy a bus ticket poor”, but “can’t find food for dinner” poor.”

I see. I can therefore also conclude that all American women are prostitutes, based on the poor, drug-infested, prostituting women I saw in San Francisco.

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As for revealing myself, I don’t see how that would benefit anyone. Given the automatic negative response, most people would rather be emotional about it than talk rationally about it.

Without revealing too much, I can say that I’m not one of the old dudes you see cruising around these places. I’m just another young traveler, with a curiosity for the world. Oh, and, for the record, I’ve never had any trouble attracting gorgeous girls, whether in the Philippines, or in a Western country.

I definitely agree that I came across too cavalier and relaxed about the whole thing.

Now, for the juice.

Of course, not all Filipinas are like this. I didn’t intend to generalize. However, it’s probably fair to say that the majority of them are. The Filipinas who have the affluence to post online about it represent a TINY minority of the 100 million people in the Philippines.

I generalized. A lot. Sorry about that.

But once we get passed the generalization, I think that this is a very interesting issue.

For example, think about the economics of prostitution. If you could flip a switch and eliminate prostitution in an instant, would you do it?

If so, you’d be responsible for an economic disaster and MILLIONS of deaths. Many of these girls send money home to their families. If you take away prostitution (or refuse to engage), you’re not necessarily improving their lives. In fact, you’re making it harder for their father, mother, grandmother, grandfather, brothers, sisters, etc, to survive. So if you eliminate prostitution, who’s going to support their family – YOU?

Prostitution is responsible for a HUGE transfer of wealth from the west to the eat.

In the local tourist town where I am, I’d estimate at least $100,000 USD worth of prostituion goes through the town every month. Add on to that all the money spent on hotels, tourist activities, food, by people who come for the girls.

You’re looking at maybe $500,000 USD monthly, and that’s just the local town.

A large amount of that money will then be sent home to the provinces (by the girls), spent in the local stores, and otherwise invested in the Philippines.

(of course, my numbers are far from scientific, but I hope you get my point. there is A LOT of money)

When you look at it this way, you could almost argue that it’s better to engage in prostitution than not engage in it.

I mean, all the people who take the moral highground and belittle the people that do it, how are they solving the issue? What value are they creating for the world?

Except for a little bit of noise in the blogosphere, I think these people are doing very little.

Please note that I am not saying that this makes prostitution moral or ethical, or that I’m some saint (I’m not) but that prostitution is much more of a grey area than most people seem to think.

Suppose I were to take the moral high ground and refuse to pay for sex in the Philippines. Who would that help? It certainly wouldn’t help the girls who need to send money to their families. And it wouldn’t help me either, unless I was trying to absolve my guilt or fix my conscience.

What I’m trying to say is that it’s not as simple as simply abstaining.

Of course, there are legitimate issues facing the sex trade industry, such as drug use, trafficking, etc. These are workplace issues, and they do not automatically mean prostitution is wrong.

It’s easy to make assumptions about these girls. Hell, that’s what I did in the article. I wrote that a few months ago, and naturally, I’ve modified my understanding in a few ways.

In some cases, the deal is a complete transaction. You pay for the sex and the girl spreads her legs. But it also works the other way too. Many of the girls will only go with guys they like. That’s right – they’ll only go with guys they’re attracted to. Therefore, for some girls, you do need to be cool.

Also, some of the girls seem to hate their jobs. They do it because they have to, or because they’re forced too. But you know what? Some do it because they LOVE it. Think about it. Every night, they get to party, have sex, and drink. This isn’t an assumption. This was confirmed with conversations with a number of girls.

One girl didn’t need to work. Her step-father had enough money, but she hated asking him for money, or being dependent upon him. So she worked as a prostitute. This was also one of the girls who was selective about who she went with. I’m a pretty good judge of character, and this wasn’t some cooked-up story to make me believe something that wasn’t true.

It’s also quite funny if you go to these bars alone. If you go alone, the implication is that you’ve got no friends, and are therefore not cool. Surprisingly, the girls tend to avoid you. This is almost identical to going to a dance club in a Western city. If you go by yourself, you’re going to look like a loser. If you go with a big group of friends, you’ll be considered popular and hence attract more attention.

I find it fascinating that a concept like social proof even applies with prostitutes. That suggests to me that it is not as simple as a transaction. Of course, it is a transaction, but in many cases, it’s a lot more than a transaction.

These girls are people, like all of us, and they want the same things, to be loved and understood. If you’re decent-looking, cool and kind, you’ll find that you naturally attract these girls, just like you would in the west.

Anyway, this is getting pretty damn long.

The reason I replied is because most people have an automatic response to these things. If you have never experienced a culture like this, it will be impossible to understand. If you have ever been travelling for a long time, you’ll remember the blank stares you get when you try to explain your adventures back home. People listen for the first two minutes, then they lose interest. They can’t understand what you’ve been doing.

The point of my reply is that prostitution is a grey issue (like nearly everything in life). Simply abstaining from it and taking the moral or ethical highground solves very few problems. Conversely, engaging in prostitution actually contributes value to their lives (if only monetary).

There is also a wide range of guys that these girls have sex with. Sure, there’s the typical bad boy who doesn’t give a shit about the girls. Then there’s really, really, nice guys who go to great lengths to ensure the girl is comfortable, happy, etc, etc.

I don’t think many people will “get it”, but meh. If you open your eyes, most people are pretty uptight about sex. That’s why I think this blog is so popular. People tend to avoid sex, that’s why this blog is a breath of fresh air (which I’m sure you’ll all agree on).

If you ask me, the solution the prostitution isn’t in abstaining from it. Maybe it will always exist. Or maybe, prostitution is simply a side-effect of a developing economy. If that is the case, then you’ll find prostitution slowly disappears as the worldwide standard of living rises.

On another note, a FANTASTIC book on the origins of sex and how unnatural we’ve made it is SEX AT DAWN. Read that book. It will change your life.

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Is he still here? Because I want to punch him in the face.

I know this really does happen, but for him to so casually brag about his paid sexual exploits is plain irresponsible, and for me, just really pathetic. What, no one else wants to have sex with him so he actually has to travel to a poor country to get laid? Maybe he even feels good about himself because he’s only just helping these poor girls — oh, sorry, girlfriends. I guess he thinks that’s perfectly acceptable — he’s not the first guy to have ever paid for sex, right? — because he even has the gall to promote sex tourism here. (“Visit the Philippines and experience it yourself.” Maybe that line will catch on.)

One comment here said this was a “fascinating insight into his perspective.” I don’t see what’s so fascinating about an account of a scumbag whose only goal seems to be to encourage this whole cycle of exploitation because, hey, why not, when it can score even the most repulsive guys one-night stands — and even a girlfriend or two, or three — and trick them into thinking they’re rockstars. I don’t think this guy really says anything new here. No insight (what, “we all just want to ‘do it like they do on the discovery channel’”?), not even the slightest sign of remorse. I don’t even learn anything about any of the girls he slept with. Filipinas are all just poor, period. We’re lucky because this guy is here to save us all, one night at a time.

To anyone who’s reading this: The Philippines is making an effort to draw in more tourists, but if you only want to come here for cheap sex, then please, just stay where you are.

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Will, I also believe that everybody’s opinion and point of view should be allowed in TSL. Even if its a seemingly “scumbag” opinion, still leaves room for thought, discussion and growth.

That being said, I totally agree with Nomadic Chick on her point of view and opinions. Not much to add myself…. Except:

When I was in Guatemala I happen to meet and befriend a Pimp. Yes, a man that handled roughly 8 girls which worked trough him, in an underground prostitution network. Now, I have never had anything against prostitution, but then again I didn’t know much about human traffic/exploiting at that time.
I gave him the benefit of the doubt and spoke with him deeper about the subject. I even met some of the girls working with him (as friends, one of them I still keep in touch over email).
I know its not the same than other parts of the world, but speaking with this Guatemalan girls, I realized they were doing it by choice. Yes, it wasn’t the job of their dreams, but they enjoyed it more than flipping burgers or selling stuff on the phone. That gig gave them a very decent income, so they could support their family (most of them were single moms) and stay in school. It was a temporary job, while they got their life together.
A couple of them rated themselves as Premium, charged more, and got to choose customers.

To me, it was a sweet deal for both parts. Still a business transaction, but convenient for both sites.

Now, I’m in North America, and also got in touch with a girl that handles a small group of girls. I met two of them, and I had the same impression I got in Guatemala from them. I was talking to them as a friend, not a customer or business associate, and I feel they were honest about it. One of them even worked as model, but had this other job as a complement, and she said usually met interesting and generous people.

So, it might be my very personal point of view, but the whole prostitution doesn’t seem like an issue to me. You might even call me just another douche, but I really don’t consider me to be one.

I’m just a regular man.

Cheers, and keep the polemic going!

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I knew a woman who worked as a high-end prostitute in Honolulu. Got to know her while walking to my job every night in Waikiki. She loved her work. Made a TON of money working for herself. She always choose her customers (often older Japanese business men). She owned a Hummer & a Benz. Lived in a penthouse apartment. She was able to improve her living conditions with her work (that’s why most people work), and seemed perfectly happy.

There is a ton of prostitution in the US. I think the factor that makes these stories so sensational for many people is race/ethnicity. Bars that cater to rich men and young wanna-be models & actresses in Miami, NYC, Vegas, and LA don’t attract much attention. But when the same type of thing happens in another country, it’s shocking?

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I don’t get why people are up in arms about this article. This site is called TravelSexLife after all.

The article was written to portray one individual’s take on what he encountered in Manila. Some of us might not like the implied tone behind the article but it is his take. Why go to the extent of bashing him and this site for posting the article. Get a grip people.

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The author’s comment is better than the original article – Prostitution Saves Lives – HAHA!

I’ve met lots of whores in Latin America – some desperately poor with kids, some living luxuriously and independent. Regardless which there are more of, 100% of non-prostitute women would condemn the business anyway.

Why? It spoils their game. Yes, sometimes women have sex just because they want it. But in the long run, especially with a recurring partner, it always ends up with the woman trying to get something out of the man – marriage, a house, child support, etc. It involves seduction and long-term manipulation. Don’t get me wrong, I’m all for settling down and monogamy. But the way human sexuality is designed, it’s in the woman’s reproductive interest to convince the man not to have sex with other women (and possibly having kids, spreading his resources thin), in favor of committing to and supporting only her and her kids. Those women who seduced their men into committing and supporting them had children (males included) who survived at a higher rate, so we’ve evolved this way.

What’s the point? Non-prostitute women abhor prostitutes and their male clients because it throws their whole scheme upside down. Prostitutes made the economic decision – whether by necessity or choice – that they weren’t going to try to get a guy to stick around and provide for a family. Instead, they unveiled the veiled economic transaction, or got down to brass tax. It exposes the transaction that all non-prostitute women are working for. And non-prostitutes need that transaction to work.

However insulting to non-prostitute women that may be, I actually side with them. I don’t believe in the whore-with-a-heart-of-gold. They’re damaged goods, precisely because they’ve boiled romance down to economics. Marry a non-whore.

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As if prostitution, the oldest business in history, could ever be eliminated.

If you legally prohibit it, like some feminist dreamers want, it just goes underground and all gets worse for both parties involved – no security, safety, health checks etc.

I don’t like the hypocrisy of some of the female readers here. There’s tons of older, ugly western women going to places like the Caribbean and northern Africa to get “romanced” by young, good looking local guys. And they pay them, of course. Not always upfront but in the form of substantial “gifts” and “assistance” to the poor guys’ families. It’s the same thing so please stop whining.

I see no problem when two adults decide to trade sex for cash.

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So I’m from the Philippines and not really offended with this post. I guess other people will appreciate it more if instead of focusing on the prostitution and justifying it by thinking you’re saving their lives, could’ve focus more on the Filipinas being more sexually open and the easy to hook up part because it’s kind of true that a white guy can feel like a rockstar in the Philippines (although only true to a specific economic standing, which in a 3rd world country, can be the majority). I guess the title/article was meant to shock. Guess you succeeded. Imagine the traffic that could’ve lead to your blog if you’ve revealed yourself. Lol.

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The notion of ‘choice’ is something that has been brought up a lot here. As a few of the commenters mention, some of these women choose to be prostitutes, and as one commenter mentions it is a better ‘choice’ than flipping burgers. This is an interesting idea- that for these women, their choices are between flipping burgers and having sex with men. To me that is not a choice, that is a poorly constructed society that offers very little choice. If these women had the choice between, for example, becoming doctors or lawyers or workers in the sex trade, then perhaps there would be less prostitution on offer in places like the Phillippines. But as it stands, globally, women are in general less educated, more affected by poverty, and more likely to be the subject of abuse. I’m not saying that there aren’t some well-educated women who use prostitution to make a lot of money and don’t mind doing it, but let’s face it, those women do not make up the majority.

Using your status and power as a person from a rich country to do whatever you like with women from poorer countries cannot be dressed up under the guise of choice. There are many different decisions we can make with what to do with our money as travelers, but using it to degrade and exploit people? Really? Is that all you’ve learnt from your travels? That you can act like a king or a ‘rockstar’ because your money enables you to buy whatever you want, be it a couple of beers at a bar or a woman. If Filipino women really love sex as much as you say, perhaps all the men who visit could just have sex with them for free and you can save that $500,000 USD that you estimated and channel it back into helping the community. Perhaps if you’d traveled a bit more you might have realized that you can benefit people more if you group together money and put it into projects that affect an entire town, instead of just lining one person’s pocket with 50 dollars, for the rather unequal work value of having to suck your dick for a night.

Mac – you may not be aware of this since you are clearly a complete idiot, but prostitution is already illegal in almost every country in the world. Most feminists want to LEGALISE it as a way to improve conditions for those in the sex trade.

Expat chronicles – I’m not really sure where to get started on your rather terrifying analysis of women coming under only two categories – the ‘whore’ and the ‘non-whore’ who is intent on ruining your life with her views on whores. I would, however, like to remind you that we are not living in the 1950s anymore. Most women in England do actually have jobs now and are quite capable of supporting themselves.

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It’s actually not that easy to meet girls in The Philippines. I am a 35 year old Dutch guy and i lived 1 year in Manila and 7 months in Davao and Cebu. Most Philippina girls or pinay are not into Western guys, unless you are a Brad Pitt or George Clooney lookalike, you will not find many girls willing to talk to you because most pinay are actually only into local guys.

You can find some Pinay girls in bars working as freelancers or hookers but these girls have kids and are older and therefore are not interesting anymore for local guys, they only see one option to make money or to find a husband and that is to go working in bars or clubs where they can find Western guys.

In the malls you will not easily find a girl (normal girl) unless you are tall and young and a George Clooney (minus the grey hair) clone. then you will of course be attractive but if you look like that you don’t need to go to The Philippines to get laid because you will have no problem finding loads of interested girls in your own country.

Bottomline it is not easier to find girls in The Philippines then compared to Europe Australia or the USA it is bullshit

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this author is a big idiot prostitution is anywhere in the world.

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I have paid for sex in the UK for many years. I can not see any issue with paying for sex provided that it takes place between consenting adults and both parties to the transaction treat one another with respect. Most sex workers in the West choose to enter the profession of prostitution (they are not forced). The industry should be decriminalised.

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I don’t find this post revolting or disgusting. This is the ugly truth.
I am a Filipino but I’m no idiot to the truth. I know it is hard for these girls to survive with empty and false promises from the government, pro-female institutions that can’t get far out from their buildings premises and to corrupt officials who enjoys these form of debauchery.

Criminals are considered gods back home. You be careful of your words and they’ll let you off. Step on the line your dead.

Foreigner or not you can’t go bragging or they’ll harass and shoot you (locals)
I’m not dissing my own people here. I’m telling what it’s like to live in that country. It is a very progressive country with many decent jobs that can be offered to the masses, but its the people who have a problem. They can’t work together. Some would like to be serve in a silver platter. Others just eat you like a dog.

They say it’s hard to live by, but its actually the opposite they want to live hard.

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So, where’s the recommended places to stay? Without getting ripped off or hit over the head….

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The writer should read this: http://globalnation.inquirer.net/46227/21-women-rescued-from-cop-tasked-to-stop-human-trafficking. …This is an absolutely disgusting article.

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Well all I have to say is that you don’t have to travel for 15 hours to the Philippines for sex. If you are a pig you can have plenty of sex here in the USA and anywhere else in the world. Prostitution is the oldest profession known to men, it continues to be very popular world wide among unscrupulous men and women. My point is if you like that lifestyle there are plenty of prostitutes in your local area safe your money and your time if you like to travel for fun is great but you don’t need to go so far just to get laid. Frank

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You idiot! I can only ask you how it must feel to take advantage of a girl /s that were born into a third world countries and are aware that they long for LOVE and someone to provide for them, yet are forced to give themselves away to so called men wanting to inflate thier egos only to pay to live. Imagine your daughter facing the same fate! And men thinking of her as making them feel like a rockstar. Is it humane to prey on those less fortunate????

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I think this article is disgusting and also degrading the Filipina women. For the life of me, I cannot understand what anyone gets out of writing and posting such disgusting garbage as this on the internet. It is just such garbage as this article that causes some of the Filipino people to have a less than favorable opinion of foreign men.

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I am a proud Filipina. It is true prostitution exist in the Philippines but to generalize all Filipinas are foul. I am with a western guy and it’s not money that I am after of him, in fact I help paying our bills. I care and love him. It hurts that some people judged Filipinas the wrong way.

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A lot of the bitches in this blog are repressed sexually and all have a sense of entitlement,its like they trully believe that women are worth a shit.I am
always fascinated when a woman thinks they are trully on par with a man.
For one no straight man would go to a dump like the Smellippines for the beautiful scenery and the piss smelling streets,if it wasnt for the tight ass and pussy to be had nobody would go to this piece of shit third world cesspool.Wake up idiots.

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So many views on this and most of them if not all are completely retarded,

Nomadic Chick’s views were pretty good BUT justifying smoking weed is fine but prostitution isnt based on what you wrote is just pure lol’s given the fact the end user doesnt get hurt too much doesnt mean they arent supporting an industry where murder and even human trafficing exist’s. how do you think the weed ends up in the end users hands?? Kids being recruited younger than 10 to work in gangs in growing weed and killing people and even being killed to supply the drugs to the end user doesnt seem like a smart choice to say weed is harmless etc so bit of a silly argument. ALthough i think alot of your views and points are definitely correct to the piunt that they actually exist in the industry.

Alot of you women are also making a huge amount of assumptions which just aren’t true and everyone has completely ignored the fact that alot of the time the exploiter is actually the prostitute themselves that milk aged men for there lifes savings essentially robbing the inherritence of these mens famil. Its insane if you actually research the area at all just how wrong all of are viewing the whole area.

most people jump to the conclusion that 99% of the prositues have no choice and are sweet and innocent and hate the jobs and are just abused endlessly for little money, when infact that represent’s a small portion of prostitutes and actually the majority do it because they want a higher standard of living and its mostly them exploiting alot of the men.

I cba to write in huge detail or to argue every point or to even take away some of the comments you said because alot of the points made already are true but its very very biased and not the compete picture.

also as to sex tourism in general there are a huge amount that are not just old men and are simply a younger generation for a multitude of reasons. Alot of reasons a few have given is because all they want to do is have sex plain and simple, they dont want to go chat up a girl and get rejected all night till they find a girl thats interested then spend the next few days talking and getting to know them just to get in bed with them and then never contact them again. They pay a prostitute just because each both parties know what they are getting out of it from the offset, there is no hidden agenda also they said that normally sex with a prostitute is often alot better than just a one night stand because most girls are reasonably shy in bed and its harder to get adventureous with someone you hardly know.

Im not saying this makes it ok or not im just trying to open peoples mind up to the fact that people dont just pay for sex because they are old or un-attractive and cant get layed normally.

My main point of the comment wasn’t to say whether prostitution is right or wrong or to disprove any of the comments above, it was to open peoples mind to a broader picture and to see that its not a simple topic or a definative right or wrong and that the exploitation isnt just innocent girls that have no choice. Basically its not black or white and its actually a huge grey area with exploitation from both sides of the industry along side with mutual benefits and advantages from both side of the industry and that its not just a dark and gloomy place with seedy old men.

I know my post seems very to be making very pro’ arguments about prostition but iuts only because all the comments have been heavily anti and heavily biased, alot of above comments are true in describing a portion of the industry but not the full picture

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also if i wasn’t a grammatical retard and lazy half of what i just wrote would have made sense lol.

also Big Schlong
excellent and very intelligent debating skills well played, are you even old enough to be reading a websites content based around sex?

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“Decades from now, people will look back and wonder how societies could have acquiesced in a sex slave trade in the twenty-first century that is… bigger than the transatlantic slave trade was in the nineteenth. They will be perplexed that we shrugged as a lack of investment in maternal health caused half a million women to perish in childbirth each year.”
? Sheryl WuDunn, Half the Sky: Turning Oppression into Opportunity for Women Worldwide

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This article is absolutely disgusting. It demeans and degrades the Filipino women and their families. Such article is even degrading the western males (certainly not all western males are like this sicko). Merely using the Filipino females (young girls as the writer of this sickening article calls them) for your own sexual satisfaction and pleasure is certainly not their ticket out of poverty. Instead, it is a ticket that helps keep them in poverty, desolation and shame.
I am an American male, married to a wonderful Filipino woman. Six-years ago, I visited the Philippines for the very first time. And I, too, experienced lots of attention from certain young, Filipino females. I do not know their ages. Anyhow, Asian females normally look much younger than their actual age. My Filipino wife is nearly 40, and there are people who assume she is a teenager. But during all my time visiting in the Philippines, I have never sought sex from any flirtatious female. Of course, I didn’t (and I never) go there looking for sex. My personal opinion of this article is this: only a sick, perverted, disgusting, and pathetic individual, (as obviously the writer of this article surely is), would mistreat poverty-stricken and vulnerable females with such contempt, and then boast about it in written form just so he can exploit them to the world by means of the internet. Such articles as this should be banned from being publicized.
Just a side note: Prostitution is practiced all over the world. I think one of the reasons these perverts go to Countries like the Philippines looking for sex, is because they don’t have the money to afford the high-priced call girls practicing in the western world. It’s interesting that no such articles get written about the calls girls in the western world. Ever wonder why? Could it be because if they know such articles would land them in jail and, they would face a lawsuit? Probably!

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re the last comment no hes wrong allways will be just a sado thats all.dont condesend to him..i will tell you what difference is between girls in thailand and phil is,they have nothing compared to people in the west. but allways have a simle and people in the west have everthing and most dont give a shit well thats there problem but dont put down people because of sex thats a load of bollocks.just like the guy that wrote it.he really needs to get a life.but probabley never will poor sod…

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I just shook my head at some of the women’s comments on here – like many women, they simply disprove of male sexuality and do not wish to know anything about it.

Bravo to the author for telling it like it is. Asia is a wonderful place…

I’ll say something *really* naughty now – sex and relationships in the West also have an unspoken economic element.

Bye!

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Contrary to some of the other posts, I’d like to thank you for posting this article. Very educational.

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I’m an Aussie and been in the philippines for the last 5 years. I’ve lived in Cebu, Manila, Iloilo, Bacolod, and traveled through the provinces staying in nipa huts. Yes this article contains many generalizations but there is quite a bit of truth to it. Most young sexy girls in the city are prostitutes in one way or another. They may not be standing on the street corner sucking dick for 100 pesos, but they will spread their legs for 1000 pesos. Girls that have pinoy boyfriends, go to school or church, have jobs, children, etc are still poor and will gladly spread their legs to any foreigner for 1000 pesos.

Notice I didn’t say “all.” Of course not 100% of filipinas are prostitutes, but the fact is most are, and they are still nice people, just poor.

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I’m a Filipina and I don’t find this article “disgusting”. But I felt insulted with some comments above that says, any Filipinas are willing to spread their legs for just 2000 pesos. Hey, your currency might be greater compared to our Peso but the value of it here is hardly felt. The only reason why tourist look like a walking dollar is the fact that most of you are willing to pay just to have sex.

Sex in exchange of money is now really getting more common here in the Philippines. Prostitution, if you do not know, is the oldest form of profession in the history of humans and its been present in almost all society. So why would you feel embarrassed about it when you’re not the first in history to do it? Me, I’m not ashamed to see these rampant prostitution around me. You know, some people probably just need to earn a living. And who am I to judge? Man needs casual sex, woman can provide it but needs something in return. So the opportunity of sex in exchange of ‘something’, is born.

I’m not saying that everyone here in Philippines is willing to do it. There are still a lot of conservative girls here by the way. Or should I say, conservative but most of them hides the fact that under those “good girl” impressions, they are no longer virgins because they already give it to their boyfriends as a birthday present. I’m sure Filipinos are also aware of that. Several decade ago, virginity is considered a gift that a girl can gave to her husband on their wedding night. Nowadays, it’s merely a birthday present that is sometimes even offered in advance. That’s how the current generation view sex. So times are really changing and if you are a narrow-minded Filipino, are you embarrassed about that too?

Back to prostitution. Those girls that you find in the bars, night clubs, and cafes. Most of them for sure are Prostitutes by Profession, meaning to say it is their work. You can’t judge “All Filipinas” based on these sex workers, just as you do not call your mom or sister a prostitute just because you saw prostitutes in your community. Sure you can get those girls for only 2,000 pesos that would be their average rates plus the risk of getting a STD in your part.

I’ve heard that there are ordinary girls out there who secretly resort to prostitution because they badly in need of money. Most of this girls are self supporting college students. I bet you can find one in every colleges out here in Philippines, especially when the examination period is near and they needed to find a way to pay their tuition fees. But these girls are very discreet, most of them acquires their client from the internet (nice use of technology huh?) and their rates are above the average. Sometimes double because of the fact that they’re clean and most client prefers those “working students” instead of picking those professional prostitutes from the sidewalks. Some rates even reached 10,000 – 20,000 pesos depend on the appearance of the girl. Some are even willing to do it for free, but in exchange you have to take them as your wife and give them a good future. Online dating? Filipinas searching for a foreign husband? Well, whatever you call it, it still sound prostitution to me but just on a different angle. Sex in exchange of ‘something’.

Cheers!

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I can’t believe I just read all that. That settles it, only high end escorts with no pimps for me. Shit I just wanted to find one of those opium dens with perrty girls that serve all night, but I guess that only in the movies.

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Most women are prostitutes all over the world. Women generally choose man who is richer than they are and expect financial benefits from relationship. This same principal applies no matter where you go.

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That guy is an ass hole !

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I read the comment .. and I am one of the women working at the bar .. Maybe we’re doing that wrong with selling ourself…
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This article only speaks the truth! My husband of 26 years just confessed to me that 8 months ago while in Manila he was approached by one of these sluts and asked “would you like some company” and the asshole said “yes”. They went back to his hotel (across the street from a strip mall where he went to purchase an item and then got propositioned) She put the condom on him and he did an in/out 2x and pulled out and broke down in tears and gave her the $50 and she left. He ripped off the condom and cried like a baby. Since this happened he has lost 60 lbs b/c of stress (me thinking work related) and lose in appetite. My heart is broken in a million peices. He wants to go for counselling to figure out why in heaven’s name he would even do this to me. I don’t know what to do, I am so confused!

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Hi all, i just won’t to say that there are many reason why a man pays for sex. Yes i have paid for sex, for me it was the experience of paying for it also a deferent nationality that you may not have experienced. I’m currently signal and i have the opportunity to be in a relationship but i choose not to right now, dose that make me a bad person for paying for sex. The way i see it is in the pass i would spend a lot of time chatting up a women taking her out just to have sex i’m 50 now i would rather pay for sex than wast a women’s time if i only want sex, also i have hurt and been hurt in the pass when your not ready for commitment you can leave someone deeply hurt as it gets harder to tell a women of my age group you just want sex. until i meet the right women i will pay for sex. The down side for me is it like to feel that it is a mutual attraction which can be hard when paying for it. Sourly women take advantage of men knowing most men would love sex with a young beautiful girl, no deferent to a women falling for a man that will give here secretary.. There are many marriages bast on finance and not love.. I would never knowingly have sex with anyone i believe is being force i see it as a service and thy see me as a punter…

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WELL WELL All the doo gooders

I have never been there but am looking forward to it as i will be one meeting ladies, having fun, offering respect and giving them some reward that they will very much appreciate.

They like it or not do it by choice of course to make ends meet but thats the way it is and the predicament they find themselves.

This is a site offering a forum for comments of this nature so maybe those that take offence need to join a knitting site or something similar.

I am certainly not advocating asking unreasonable things of these ladies but if i offer her a night of comfort, a meal a good shag and something that will enable her to eat for a few more nights i wont be losing sleep over that and neither should you!

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This article is a accurate reflection of the night life in the Philippines. At no point did the author give judgement. There is nothing wrong with prostitution…..it is a service like anything else.
These woman are not forced to be prostitutes…….it is there choice. For the men who are paying for the service does not make them any less a person than you or I.
With wars, people being shot up, bombs going off……. It pays to put the sex business into perspective…….it’s not causing the world harm.
The only reason it’s getting people’s backs up is that it does not fall into line with THEIR values……however there are plenty of people who’s it does.

Stop the judgment……….

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When I was a young man I went to the Philippines on leave. I was in the USN and Olongapo City was the recreational area. I was amazed mainly because it was just like the article that is posted. I got out of the service and went back to my life in the USA. I got married and divorced seven years later. I got married again and just a year or two later that was it for me. Thirty-five years later I went back to the PI to go diving at Boracay. It was better than I remembered it to be when I was a kid. I did not partake in the women but I did partake in the warmth of the Filipino’s natural tendency to be a happy group of individuals. I would buy two dollars worth of Pandesol every morning and have it passed out to the workers at the resort I was staying. I was treated like a king. I came back home to my same life complete with a girlfriend that was looking to see what I could do to keep her entertained and it occurred to me how I have settled to be a meal ticket for so long I thought it was normal. I asked my girlfriend to vacate and gave her anything she wanted including the dishes, never to see her again. I gave her the dishes because she never had cooked a meal and could not recognize the vacuum cleaner if it was in front of her. I did all. I worked, payed the bills, provided a nice home, had her college aged daughter in the house being a disrespectful slob, I cooked all the meals and did the dishes afterwards. After she was given the heave ho, I needed to purchase more dishes. I went to the Macys in town and picked out a new set. I was waited on by a forty-two year old Filipina. She brought the dishes to my Jeep for loading and thought my Jeep was beautiful. I spoke with her after that and took her out off roading,and before I knew it we were seeing eachother regularly. One year later we married and I am treated with dignity and respect, heck I barely knew how to let anybody do anything for me anymore. I love her. It took me thirty-two years to get married again and now I am as happy as I can be. When I was a kid and on leave, I thought to myself, I should keep one of these beauties and make her mine for all time, but I did not. As it turns out my first instinct was correct and I wasted a significant portion of my life dealing with the spoiled and entitled women that have been in my life. I was told long ago, Never change a test answer, and now I know why………..

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I read all the views abt people over here …and I would like to ask them why they are so against the man who wrote this blog…He has spoken the real hard truth abt phil sex workers bar girls and bla bla bla….Apart from what he experienced there is another set of a group ….who are not sex workers bt lure foreigners into their net on the pretext of wanting to have a long distance relationship with them …and as soon as they find out that the man really loves her she will start asking for money for any kind of excuses…The man pays as a courtesy thinking maybe she is having a problem and he extends his helping hand to her…Once she finds the money flowing easy she starts off asking frequently..well some men are clever now so either they dont give or they do give and lose their money….I had met a filipina around 6 yrs back from now …we met on net that time she was a sales lady in a mall she said she doesnt beleive in net dating and wanted to meet me personally .That time I didnt had my passport made becoz never in my dreams i thought i will be loving a filipina or going out of my country I was happy with my life …well I called her payed lot of money for her ticket visa and everything ..The first time we met the same day she told me to hve love making with her …we did know each other bt as it was my first time to meet a foreigner girl i was very nervous ..well we had lot of love making with each other once i got comfortable with her …she stayed with me for 10 days and went back then she demanded me that she wante to do nursing so if i could help ….I think it will come as a shock to all the filipinas or filipinos who will be reading this story of mine …I spent millions to get her nursing completed ..she visited me several times to India on my expenses spent her days here like a queen…she completed her nursing in the meantime and got the RN exam done and passed also at first attempt as she was intelligent ..I was also happy that my money was not wasted and i helped a woman i loved to achieve her goals in life….I wanted to marry her so i called her again..she came and we even got married as per hindu rites …bt she didnt report the marriage to the embassy …I didnt know what her intentions were ..well during marriage as a culture I gave lot of gold ornaments to her of my mom which she had kept for her daughter in law…well once she flew back she kept talking to me for few days bt suddenly she one day told me that she doesnt feel love anymore and want to quit…I was totally shocked ….I lost millions to keep her happy bt still i dont know wht she wanted more…well I got tired and i also quit this relationship finally..I still feel so much pain inside me ..bt wht to do wht is gone is gone and i know i cant do anything abt it …so there are these kind of woman too who use and abuse and then will dump u…this is also called another kind of prostitution…I agree I am a emotional person I have helped lot of people in my life ….I pray to God that to save another person being the target of her lust for money ….thank u God for saving my life ….

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THIS IS FOR JENN NELSON……MADAME ….have u heard the song ” she loves me like Jesus does” by Eric Church …Plss spend 3 min listening to the song on You tube …I think u would get the answer….if you love ur husband then learn to forgive him also …he did a mistake unintentionally becoz he is was into it all his life and he lost his weight also as wht u told here …see how much he is guilty abt it ….such men of character are rare to find on this earth….forgive him and embrace him…he is going under trauma my friend ….we all human beings are not perfect we do make mistakes …forgiveness is the only solution to bring ur family back to happiness Amen

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